For women who are done waiting
He Was NeverGoing ToWalk Over
Nothing is wrong with you.The odds are.
Two pages from the book
The Sunday
There is a particular Sunday that women describe to me in almost identical words.
It is somewhere between four and six in the afternoon. The light has started to go. You have done something useful with the day, the washing is on, you saw a friend, you went to the shop, and you are back in your flat, and it is very quiet.
You are not sad, exactly. If someone rang you now you would be perfectly cheerful. You would sound like yourself.
But there is a specific weight in the room at that hour, and you have learned not to look at it directly. You put something on the television. You start a job in the kitchen you don’t need to do. You find, without deciding to, that you are cleaning the inside of a cupboard.
The argument
Nineteen
He approached twenty women last month. Nineteen said no. That is not confidence, that is anaesthesia.
Eight feet
The good man is already in the room. He noticed you in four seconds. He is not coming, because he has been taught that approaching a stranger makes him a creep.
A quarter of an inch
What it actually takes to change that is smaller than you think, and none of it is approaching him.
What men said
I asked forty men the same question. Have you ever wanted to approach a woman and decided not to?
Every single one said yes.
I expected them to say they did not think she would be interested. That is the answer this entire genre is built on. Not one of them said it.
I didn't want her to think I was a creep.
What is inside
- Why the best men stopped approaching, in their own words
- The six signals that tell a nervous man he is welcome
- Fourteen things you already do that he reads as no
- The Twenty Compliments Challenge, thirty days
- What to do at month four, when he starts to pull back
- The arithmetic. How many men are available and how many can see you
One reader
It took Nia nine days to say six words to a stranger.
By the end of the month she had said twenty-three. Six months later she was married.
Asked what surprised her most, she does not mention the wedding. She talks about the men's faces.
They just look pleased. Like nobody's said anything nice to them in a year.
About the author
August Mensah is a businessman and a writer. He is married. He wrote this book because the single women he knows kept asking the same question, and the honest answer was one nobody wanted to give them.
What is a married man doing writing a book for single women? The referee should not be playing for either team.
Read the first chapter
Nothing is wrong with you.The odds are.Let's change them.
Buy He Was Never Going to Walk Over
5.5 x 8.5in paperback, 170 pages, and Kindle. 22 chapters and a thirty day challenge. By August Mensah.